NLP Coaching for Self-Sabotage Dublin
You know what you want. Time to stop getting in your own way — with Shiera O’Brien, NLP Coach, Dublin
NLP Coaching Self-Sabotage
You Know What You Want — And You Keep Stopping Yourself
You procrastinate on the things that matter most. You stop just short of what you’ve been working toward. You create problems right when things are going well. You know exactly what you’re doing — and you can’t seem to stop.
This is self-sabotage — and it’s not a character flaw or a lack of willpower. It’s a pattern, driven by unconscious beliefs about what you deserve, what’s safe and what success actually means for you. Until those beliefs change, the behaviour keeps repeating.
NLP coaching identifies the exact conflict running the pattern and resolves it — so you can move forward without fighting yourself every step of the way.
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Format
1:1 Coaching
In Dublin & online
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Speed
Fast Results
Shift within 3–5 sessions
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Approach
NLP & Neuro-Semantics
Resolve the inner conflict
How Self-Sabotage Shows Up
It doesn’t always look the same — but these are the patterns that come up most often in professionals and leaders.
Procrastinating on What Matters
You get everything else done — except the thing that would actually move you forward. It sits on the list. Day after day.
Stopping Just Short
You get close — then something happens. An excuse, a conflict, a reason to wait. The goal stays just out of reach, time after time.
Undermining Your Own Credibility
You downplay your work, deflect compliments or volunteer your weaknesses before anyone has asked — quietly making yourself smaller.
Creating Drama When Things Go Well
Success feels uncomfortable. When things go well, something in you finds a way to disrupt it — an argument, a mistake, a reason to step back.
Avoiding Visibility
You stay quiet in rooms where you should speak. You don’t put your name forward. You hold back — and then wonder why others get the recognition.
Repeating the Same Pattern
Different job, different relationship, different situation — same outcome. The context changes but the result doesn’t. That’s the pattern.
How NLP Coaching Resolves Self-Sabotage
Self-sabotage isn’t a mystery — it’s an unconscious conflict between what you consciously want and what you unconsciously believe is safe or deserved. NLP coaching resolves the conflict directly.
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Identify the Conflict
Coaching surfaces the exact belief running the self-sabotage — what success means at an unconscious level, and why part of you keeps pulling back from it.
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Resolve It at the Root
Using NLP and Neuro-Semantics, the belief is changed directly — not talked about, not managed, but genuinely shifted. The conflict stops running.
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Align Your Actions
With the conflict resolved, your conscious and unconscious are moving in the same direction. Procrastination eases. Momentum builds. Progress feels natural rather than forced.
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Keep It Lasting
The new pattern is embedded so it holds in the situations that used to trigger the sabotage — high stakes, high visibility, moments of real opportunity.
“Shiera’s coaching was transformative. Through powerful questioning and tailored strategies, she helped me gain confidence, overcome my fears and become far more comfortable presenting to large audiences under pressure.”
— MA, Senior Financial Professional, Smurfit WestRock, 2025
Ready to Stop Getting in Your Own Way?
Book a free 15-minute call with Shiera. No pressure — just a conversation to explore what’s driving the self-sabotage and whether NLP coaching is the right fit.
Questions About NLP Coaching for Self-Sabotage
Can NLP coaching help with self-sabotage?
Yes — NLP coaching is one of the most effective approaches for self-sabotage because it works at the level where the pattern actually lives: your unconscious beliefs about what you deserve, what’s safe and what success means. NLP doesn’t just name the pattern — it changes it directly, so the conflict stops running.
Why do I keep self-sabotaging even when I know what I want?
Because self-sabotage is driven by an unconscious conflict — part of you wants to succeed, and part of you believes success isn’t safe, sustainable or deserved. Knowing what you want doesn’t resolve the conflict. Only working at the level of the belief does. That’s exactly what NLP coaching addresses.
What does self-sabotage look like in professionals and leaders?
It shows up as procrastinating on the things that matter most, stopping just short of goals, undermining your own credibility before anyone else does, avoiding visibility, creating problems when things go well, and repeating the same pattern in different situations. It’s not random — it’s a pattern with a specific driver.
How many sessions will I need?
Most clients experience a significant shift within 3 to 5 focused sessions. Self-sabotage is often tied to deeper identity-level beliefs, so a more structured programme of 6 to 8 sessions may be beneficial. Shiera will design a tailored approach in a free 15-minute discovery call.
Is NLP coaching for self-sabotage available online?
Yes — sessions are available both in person in Dublin and online across Ireland. Online sessions are just as focused and effective, with no loss of depth or impact.
Zenith Training offers NLP coaching for self-sabotage in Dublin and online across Ireland. Shiera O’Brien is an experienced NLP coach Dublin specialising in self-sabotage, limiting beliefs, overthinking, imposter syndrome and confidence. With 20+ years of experience and master’s-level qualifications in NLP and Neuro-Semantics, Shiera works with executives, managers and professionals across Dublin and Ireland. Explore the NLP Coaching page or book a free 15-minute call today.